thesinisstronginthisone:

counsellorsuggestion:

counsellorsuggestion:

rottentrauma:

counsellorsuggestion:

stop insulting yourself. it doesn’t help.

But what if it’s true

it still doesn’t help. you can call yourself as many names as you want, but it won’t make you a better, happier, healthier or kinder person.

punishment doesn’t work. only positive reinforcement does. be kind to yourself and get better.

#but like#what should i do instead??#i know i shouldnt insult myself but also theres nothing to compliment imho#thats my predicament

try speaking neutrally about yourself!

“you fucking idi- it’s not that big a mistake.”

“you’re worthle- it’s okay.”

“you’ll never amount to- well, i’m doing alright, i guess.”

ever heard the phrase “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”? that applies not to just to others but to yourself as well. it’s better to think neutrally or not at all than negatively. and once you’ve got into the habit of that, it’s much easier to move to uplifting yourself!

This sort of thinking is so important! I have a tactic that for every negative thing I think about myself, I must say a positive thing, preferably of equal severity and related to the same thing is possible (eg “ugh my hair looks gross” vs “my eyes look really pretty” or “I’m a burden on my friends” vs “i always try to make time to listen to them” or even just “my shoes are so scuffed” vs “my shirt looks awesome”). It’s a good way to realise that for every tiny flaw you nitpick about yourself, there’s gonna be a tiny trait that’s just really neat.

I feel like I should say I actually got this idea from doing self reflection and evaluations at school! Using this method will not only help your self image, but also how you complete evaluations at schoop and work – you can only benefit from it!