fangirlinginleatherboots:

real talk but even ppl who know you real well might not notice when an alter is out unless explicitly told that the alter is out.

like when i transitioned to host, no one noticed. i behaved completely differently, became repulsed by contact, stopped doing activities the previous host did, changed my major in college, and started hanging out with different people and ppl just thought i was “going through a thing”

whenever karters out, people just comment that im “really funny today” or that im moody or something. theres a handful of people who can tell mine and karters typing and tone apart online and my therapist can tell theres a body language difference but thats only because shes looking for it

when alec is out people just say im being rude or moody or a smart ass. no one thinks anything of it and just steers clear because they assume im just pissy about something.

when kids are out we get comments like “why cant you just act your age” or “maybe you should lie down, you seem overwhelmed” but no one thinks like Oh A Dissociated Self State With The Emotional Awareness Of A Child Is Controlling This Person’s Body because thats just. not what people think.

idk don’t expect ppl tell alters apart without guidance. dont expect people to recognize you from another alter without help. and if you dont want to be outed or noticed, just don’t mention it, and people probably wont notice. obviously there are alters that people struggle to rationalize but ppl will go to great lengths to explain away odd behavior tbh don’t stress it.

edit: and im not saying ppl cant notice. lots of ppl CAN tell but not right away. its more just. have realistic expectations for ppl in your life.